Note: This is a guest post by WeLoveDates
Contrary to popular belief, it’s not just about looks.
What you’re NOT wearing.
What women wear can tell a guy a lot about them, but what they aren’t wearing says even more. When you walk into a room, what you don’t have on is just as important as what you do. Of course, it’s all assumptions, but that’s what first impressions are all about. A guy will do a quick scan when he see’s a woman he finds attractive, making sure you aren’t wearing the obvious things like a wedding ring, but that’s not all that he will base his initial judgments on. He might notice that you aren’t wearing any makeup, and he’ll assume that you are laid back and low maintenance, perfectly comfortable in your own skin…even though the truth is that you just rolled out of bed to grab a coffee and you never like leaving the house without a full face on. Or maybe he notices that you are overdressed, wearing heels in a sea of flip-flops, and wrongly assumes that you must be super high maintenance…when in actuality, you have dinner plans later that caused you to dress up a bit more than usual.
How you treat the people around you.
Women always talk about how one of the biggest red flags when dating is if a guy is rude to a server, bartender or valet. But the same goes for women, except it doesn’t just apply to those in the service industry. Men are looking to see how you treat the people you’re with, and the people you’re not with. Women have a bad reputation of being a bit catty, especially when there are other attractive women in their midst. Do you roll your eyes at someone’s outfit, or appear standoffish in situations when you’re a bit uncomfortable? Above all, men are attracted to women who won’t be full of drama, so if a guy notices that you’re easy to get along with and not easily threatened, he’ll assume that you’re easy-going and therefore be more likely to approach you.
Your energy and confidence.
You know how some women breeze into a room and it’s actually more like a tornado-they have so.much.energy! Maybe they talk a mile a minute, and seem like they take over the place with their intense personalities. Or how other women fly under the radar, not desperate to be the center of attention-quite the opposite actually. They are subtle and demand attention in their own way. One personality type isn’t better than the other. What’s crucial is that the way you act in public is a correct reflection of what kind of person you are, and no matter what you do you with the utmost confidence. Trying to be someone you’re not might work initially, but if you’re hoping to meet someone for the long-term, he’ll eventually get to see your true colors. If you’re hyper, rock it. If you’re shy and reserved, own it. Do you-nobody does it better.
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